For parents and guardians
Back her up without speaking over her.
The most useful thing an adult can do in an exam room is make sure the doctor talks to the patient. These guides help you push for physical answers while keeping her in charge of her own story.
Avoid saying "she's very emotional" or "she's exaggerating." Say "her symptoms are real, consistent, and escalating, and we won't stop until we understand why." The parent guide has the rest.
In the exam room
Your scripts, her scripts, and the vocabulary you'll both need.
How to Advocate for Your Child Without Speaking Over Them
5 exam-room scenarios with parent and guardian scripts, plus the phrases to avoid and what to say instead.
Doctor Communication Scripts: How to Speak Up
8 common moments, from "it's just anxiety" to a rushed visit, each with the exact words to say.
The Glossary & Self-Advocacy Guide
Terms that counter provider bias, clinical words for each symptom, and a cheat sheet of conditions often dismissed in teen girls.
At school
A 504 plan or accommodations plan, and the letter a doctor can sign.
Academic Accommodations Guide & Sample 504 Plan
A menu of accommodations by symptom, a sample 504 plan, and a request letter ready for a doctor to sign.
Keep the records
The sheets that keep a long medical journey from turning into a blur.
The Patient Passport
2 sheets to carry into every appointment: your history on one page, and your questions with room for the doctor's answers.
Comprehensive Lab Results Tracking Matrix
Track bloodwork across every doctor and network, spot trends hiding inside "normal," and skip repeat blood draws.
Daily Medical Symptom Tracker
One row per symptom: intensity, duration, what it stopped you doing, and what set it off.
Understand what she's up against
The overview of the toolkit, and the chart behind the most common misdiagnosis.
Her Health, Her Voice: A Self-Advocacy Roadmap
The overview. What the Gender Pain Gap is, what the toolkit includes, and how the pieces fit together.
POTS vs. Anxiety: Clinical Comparison & Diagnostic Reference
A side-by-side chart of triggers, heart rate patterns, physical signs, and recovery, with scripts for the clinic and the classroom.
Want the files? All 13 PDFs are on the Toolkit page.